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Impact play safety

A beginner guide to spanking, paddles, and floggers: agree on the target, warm up, and stop before skin breaks.

Agree before anyone swings

·Negotiate out loud, not in the middle of it: where you can be hit, with what, how hard, about how many, and whether marks are welcome.
·Say what is sexual and what is not. A spanking is not a yes to anything else.
·Either of you can cancel the scene. Wanting it yesterday is not a yes tonight.
·This page is buttocks, thighs, hands, paddles, and floggers. Genital impact has its own rules.
·Skip it entirely if either of you has been drinking or using anything that dulls pain or judgment.

·Use green, yellow, and red. Yellow means lighter or slower, not “convince me.” Red means hands off, scene over, no debate.
·Add a 1–10 scale. The person being hit calls the number. Beginners stay at 5 or under.
·If they go quiet, stop and ask “what color?” Silence is red until they say otherwise.
·Agree that “stop” and “no” work even if you are also using colors.

·Warm up with a bare hand: light, rhythmic, on the fleshy part of the buttocks, then the upper thighs if you both want that. A warm muscle takes more than a cold one.
·Never aim at the spine, tailbone, neck, head, joints, stomach, or the kidney area on the lower back.
·Paddles: broad, with rounded edges, not a corner or a drilled hole on a first night. Leather and silicone sting less than wood or acrylic. Start slower than you think.
·Floggers: soft suede or leather, practiced on a pillow first. The tails should land flat. If they wrap the hip, the tips can cut. Keep the arc away from the neck.
·Canes and single-tails are not beginner tools. Save them for a later day, with the same negotiation.
·The person swinging is responsible for aim. The person receiving is responsible for the number and the safeword.

·Stop if the skin breaks, if a blow lands on bone or the lower back, or if pain turns sharp, electric, or numb instead of warm.
·Stop if they can’t answer a check-in, or if either of you stops having fun and starts enduring.
·Don’t play on sunburn, broken skin, or a place that is already numb.
·Bruises can show up the next day. That is a reason to look, not a trophy you owe anyone.
·Get medical care for pain that keeps climbing, numbness or tingling that doesn’t fade, or a wound that won’t close.

·Scene over means over. Water, a blanket, and staying in the room.
·Look at the skin together. A cool cloth is enough if it feels hot. Don’t break a blister.
·Each of you names one thing you liked and one thing to change. Then leave it until tomorrow.
·Check in the next day. Soreness and feelings can both arrive late.

When you both want to play, a flirty round is one tap away. The age check still comes first.